tonight take five minutes to intentionally check in with your partner. make a drink. sit somewhere comfortable. put the phones down. take turns answering these five questions. and if you take longer than five minutes, that’s ok, too.
🔥 what made you feel most connected with me this week?
this helps you to notice what’s already working. be specific.
🔥 was there anything in our dynamic that felt off, unclear or neglected?
this isn’t about blame but about clarity. be open and don’t get defensive. understand that you’re both working towards a more harmonious dynamic.
🔥 what do you want more of right now?
be specific and go with the first thing(s) that pop into your head. do you want more structure? more teasing? more affection? don’t overthink it.
🔥 what do you want less of?
this one matters just as much. again, be specific and go with what are the first things that pop into your head. do you want less pressure? less structure? less intensity? this is the time to clear out what’s not working.
🔥 what is one thing we can do this weekend that would make our dynamic feel really good?
keep it simple yet specific. it could be a scene, a ritual, an assigned task, a dinner date. whatever fits your dynamic.
get curious when exploring these questions with your partner. your goal is to strengthen your dynamic so no scorekeeping, defensiveness or fixing. be open and honest. move through these questions with intention.
let me know how the weekend goes for you! you can comment below or let us all know over on our discord server. it’s where the kinky convo continues.
