KINKY FUN
Kinky fun is one of the reasons I’m drawn to Second Life. There is so much to explore and I’m only just beginning. There are many opportunities to roleplay, connect and have fun with other kinky people.
I’m including some of my favorite BDSM groups, clubs, playgrounds and shops here. Please let me know which ones I need to add! I’m still just beginning to explore. More will be added soon!
NOTE: These links were active as of May 10, 2023. Locations change and sometimes disappear. I apologize in advance if some links don’t work for you. They did at the time of creation.
You may also need to be a certain age (usually 30 or 60 days) to visit some of these locations. You will be booted out if you don’t meet their age qualifications.
The RLV
RLV stands for Restrained Love Viewer. It’s a viewer (such as Firestorm) that allows other avatars limited control over some of the viewer functions. To activate the RLV function, you need to turn it on when you’re in the viewer. For Firestorm, go to AVATAR -> PREFERENCES (command P on a Mac) then to the Firestorm tab on the left. Check the top box that says “Allow Remote Scripted Viewer Controls (RLVa).” This will also create another menu item called RLVa for easy access to additional controls.
The next thing you’ll need is a “relay” that will pass through these external controls. Most of these in the BDSM world are in the form of a collar but there are also necklaces, rings, bracelets and even invisible objects that will do the same thing. Open Collar offers a free relay in the form of a collar to help you get started. You add it to your avatar the same as you’d add another article of clothing.
Once it’s attached, click on it to open up its options.
- Click RLV to turn it on or off.
- In this same menu, click RELAY for additional options.
- You can turn the relay off here as well or where people need to ask to use it or put it on auto.
- You can also assign who has control over it – the wearer, an owner or a trustee.
You can also lock it from this menu.
There is a lot more to the RLV than I’ve included here but these are the basics. I’ll update this section as I learn more but in the meantime, you can read more about it at OpenCollar’s website.
If you ever get stuck in an RLV situation you can’t get out of, you can always quit the RLV viewer and login using a non-RLV viewer, such as the Second Life viewer, detach the offending relay and then relog into the browser of your choice. If you’re in the middle of roleplaying, doing this is very much frowned upon but it’s a great method to use if needed.
Kinky Clubs
Kinky clubs are a quick and fun way to connect with like-minded people. They usually host DJs and dance nights (almost every night). Join the groups of your favorites to receive notifications for when events are happening so you can engage with the most people. I’ve found everyone super warm and welcoming.
You can chat with people in the “nearby chat” box and instant message (IM) people if you want. Right-click on any avatar to view their profile to learn more about them. You can also IM people by doing this.
Click the link in the title to open up the transport box in your viewer.
NOTE: CMNF means clothed male nude female.
BELLE JAR
A CMNF club specializing in socializing, parties and dancing events along with CMNF roleplaying.
CARNAL FETISH BONDAGE CLUB
A rubber hangout specializing in latex rubber. Includes a fetish mall outside of the club.
THE GROTTO @ AROUSING DESIRE
A fun outdoor club with a dancefloor on the beach.
LIBERTINE LOUNGE
The Libertine Lounge is a secret sex society for Dominant gentlemen and submissive wives. It costs $400L to join.
LORDS
A CMNF club honoring D/s roleplaying.
THE LUSTHOUSE
A dance club (although no one really dances) that draws a substantial kinky crowd. Sex happens out in the open.
THE NAKED SUB
A club that celebrates clothed Dominants and naked submissives.
NUDA MANOR + CLUB SINISTER
A CMNF dance club, lounge and hangout.
THE SAX’O JAZZ CLUB
An elegant dance club where patrons don masks (mandatory) and engage in group sex.
TAG DANCE CLUB
An upscale CMNF ballroom with a classy touch offering jazz music and romance. The women show up in formal gowns while the men wear suits and tuxs. The women are only able to disrobe when dancing with a man and must redress immediately after.
THE TROPHY ROOM
A CMNF themed gentleman’s club where ladies disrobe by choice.
Kinky Roleplaying
Many people love to roleplay kinky scenarios in SL. I’ve gathered some of my favorites but if you know of others, please let me know and I’ll add them to the list.
Even in a virtual world, stay safe. Don’t give out personal info to anyone. Don’t let anyone you don’t know and/or trust collar you or transport you anywhere UNLESS that’s an essential part of roleplaying. Include any limits you have in your profile. And above all else, have fun!
EMIRATE OF SALMIYA
A beautiful town with an Arabian theme and an immersive roleplaying lifestyle.
OTHER WORLD – MALE DOM CLUB
An adult roleplay BDSM D/s club focused on male Doms and female submissives. This club offers many opportunities to play, either out in the open or in one of their side rooms. Decent amount of traffic.
Kinky Classes + Education
I’m a strong believer in kink education and was pleased to find several kink-oriented educational locations in Second Life. Some house libraries while others offer classes and/or training.
Here are a few of my favorites. I’ll update the list as I find them. Click the link in the title to open up the transport box in your viewer.
A MEETING PLACE
A safe place for those who want to learn more about the D/s and M/s lifestyle w hile developing friendships and having fun. Check out their calendar for their meeting schedule.
GOREAN UNIVERSITY
Offers classes for slaves introducing them to Gor ropeplay.
THE JULIENNE HOUSE, LIBRARY + SCHOOL
A manor with a library specializing in BDSM-related topics such as relationships and punishment. They also have a lot of BDSM furniture and contraptions to try out.
P3 (PLEASURE POWER PASSION)
One of the oldest, trusted and respected BDSM lifestyle D/s sim in SL. Their main gaol is to promote real life and SL D/s education through discussions. They have an extensive schedule (multiple events per day) that can be found at their landing spot (which is also their main discussion spot).
ROISSY VAL D’OISE
Inspired by the Story of O, Roisse trains submissive girls in the BDSM lifestyle. They offer structured training.
TRISKELION ACADEMY + BLACK MOON ACRES
Specializing in quality BDSM classes. You can sign up for their academy at the landing spot and/or check out their calendar for their class schedule. Everyone’s welcome so you don’t need to sign up to attend classes.
XAARA COMMUNITY
A robust D/s drive community centered around the sensual arts. They also offer various discussions and classes as well as events, dances, shopping and roke playing. They also have an extensive library.
Kinky Clothes + Gear
One of my favorite parts of Second Life so far has been the enormous amount of clothes and accessories available, especially for female avatars. It’s been so much fun dressing up in kink and fetish outfits.
You can shop for kinky clothes and gear in the online Second Life marketplace and in Second Life itself. Both have their advantages and disadvantages.
Demo everything prior to purchasing, including jewelry and accessories. Most creators offer this option. If not, ensure it states that it works with your body.
Shopping on the marketplace is the quickest way and excellent if you’re looking for something specific. It has a search option as well as has things categorized. I started out shopping this way, looking for clothes that were $0 to $10L. I found a lot of great pieces this way however be sure to demo clothes (try them on) before purchasing to ensure they fit and you like how they look on.
Shopping in Second Life itself is fun and you can find things you didn’t know you were looking for this way. There are several regular sales events and this is a great way to build up your wardrobe at a reasonable price.
Learn more about clothing basics by clicking here.
ABANDONED FREIGHT
Unique adult furniture for every room of your home, including your dungeon.
BLACK ROSE RLV
A dungeon filled with RLV equipment to fuel your kinky fantasies.
CARNAL D/S BONDAGE HANGOUT
Kinky shops that include latex, rubber and leather fashion that lead up to a D/s club.
CULT
Kink and goth fashion – clothes, shoes and accessories.
DICTATORSHOP
A high end quality kinky furniture store with furniture for every room of the house, including outside.
DSR
RLV + BDSM furniture with focus on quality and low land impact.
JADE SUMMER’S BDSM + FETISH STORE
Quality BDSM, sex and fetish furniture and animations.
LEIMOTIV
Super sexy and kinky clothes for women.
LIVIDA
Beautiful jewelry collars, jewelry, chokers, chains, masks and piercings.
MICHAN + ENAMOUR
Kinky accessories such as garters, body jewelry, decor, bags and more.
NIHIL BDSM STORE
BDSM + dungeon furniture and accessories.
NOVA COLLAR
Specializing in the nova collar system.
OPEN COLLAR
Specializing in the open collar system. This spot also includes education on how to use the open collar.
RED LIGHT DISTRICT
Kinky clothes, harnesses, collars, shoes and accessories.
SIX FEET UNDER
Gothic and vampire themed items including jewelry, BDSM collars, footwear and accessories.
The Basics
Kinky Fun
My Journey